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The Other Side of Growth


Everyone loves to talk about how wonderful expanding your consciousness is.

How wonderful it is to manifest your dream life.


How wonderful it is to "level up" and raise your vibration.


And although all that is wonderful and lovely there's also the other side to it.


A painful side.


A sad side.


A challenging side.


And a lot of times, a lonely side.


People don't typically talk about the challenges that come in your marriage when you and your spouse don't really know how to hang out or how to even talk to each other because you two are not the same people you once were.


Or how you and your family can no longer have meaningful conversations because of how different your viewpoints are today.


Or how misunderstood you feel because people in your life make fun of your belief system and the way you now show up in this world.


This. Shit. Hurts.


And I'm not saying it has to be painful. Kudos to you if you're handling this growth a lot better than I am!


But in my journey and experience, this last year- more so these last few months, I have had to learn how to navigate through a grieving phase of what once was.


I cannot even tell you how many times I've just cried either to myself or to my husband because of this wonky transition we've been in. A growth transition but a transition for sure.


It's both a grievance of my old life and my old relationships that have dissolved.


It's a grievance of the old identities and stories that no longer serve me like they once did.


It's a grievance of the life we used to live versus the one we live today.


So. Much. Has. Changed!


All for the best.


All for growth.


And all to teach us.


But never the less, a big change.



I remember writing one day,

“It’s so much easier giving up and just reverting to your old ways”


…But is it though?


Because if I remember correctly, my old ways were pretty f*cked up.  😜

No, this path is not ‘easy’


But in this life, we have choice.


You can choose to be stuck in your old patterns

Or choose the road less traveled.


...So yes, there’s a grieving phase of the ‘old’ and who knows maybe there always will be, but I have learned how to rely on the Truth of God’s eternal love & the truth of who I AM.


And those TRUTHS are what make this path worth it.


The Truth that I am uniquely and wonderfully made in the image of God- Just as you are.

The Truth that I am free to express myself in my most authentic way- Just as you are.

The Truth that I am divine in all the ways that I show up as- Just as you are.

And the Truth that I have free will and power of choice- Just as you do.


Therefore we get to show up in this life as we choose to.


Yes, it's been challenging.


It's been lonely, and it's been painful.


But I have a choice every day and I continue to show up powerfully and fully for

mySelf, my family, and my community.


I choose to have the hard painful conversations with the people I want to continue doing life with.


I choose to get to know my husband as this new version of both him and I.


I choose to let go of what once was to step into what is today <3


And By choosing all that, I have opened up so much new into my life.


Life is going to continue to push you to evolve.

So buckle up, put your big girl panties on, and lean into this growth journey, baby!


Thank you for reading. I would love to hear what you think of this path and share any hardships you've overcome during this walk in life.


I trust that you take from this what you needed and that my healing heart spoke out to your healing heart.


I love you! 🫶




It may feel lonely but you're not alone. You. Are. Held.


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You Are Called To Do Things Differently


You Are Called to Do Things Differently

You feel it deep in your soul. The divine urge of wanting something different but not knowing what it is or how to start.


It’s 2024 (Happy New Year btw!) but if you’ve looked back at your previous years and thought Lort Jesus something’s gotta change, then keep reading to find your starting point of changing your life and doing things differently.


Anxiety, depression, irritability, angry outbursts, and other negatively charged emotions occur when we are experiencing a disconnection from ourselves and hold onto a lie or limiting belief in our subconscious mind.


We don’t know why we’re feeling these feelings, and we most certainly don’t know how to manage them. Or maybe we have an idea, but we don’t get around to it. 🤪


But at some point, you have a nudge that, maybe this isn’t all that life has to offer for you. What can you do to reconnect with yourself? I will share a couple of things to start with. This is what has helped me grow in my life and has transformed the way I view life and all the beautiful things in it and in ME.



1.       Meditation. I know you’re tired of hearing about it but maybe you’re hearing all about it because it actually does help. I get asked so many times “where do I start?” you start with reconnecting with yourself in the most simple way. You sit with yourself and just be. My AM practice looks different than my PM practice & I will explain the difference in this post.


Morning Prayer & Meditation - Sit up in bed before you do anything else and think of all the things you are grateful for this morning. Give thanks for the day ahead and all the blessings you will receive. Take 9 Deep breaths. Focus on first expanding your belly, then pulling the prana (breath) up to the chest. Then release and repeat 8 more times. Set an intention for the day or say ‘I am open with the eye and ear to witness miracles today.’ Sit in gratitude for a bit before you start your day. *Optional- I love a little stretch each morning in bed.☺️


Evening Prayer & Meditation

There are many different ways to pray & meditate. Some people like to focus on breathing to clear their minds from thoughts. But I started just sitting by myself with no interruptions, a candle, a small lamp/light on, and my thoughts. Ooouu scary, “my thoughts” That’s a lot to sit with. 😵‍💫 But I also journaled what came up for me.


To me, meditation in the AM was to set my intentions for the day while my PM meditation was to take inventory of how my day went and to deep dive into my subconscious mind. If you’re not familiar with what the subconscious mind is, follow me on Instagram, i talk a lot about it 😆 OR you can read The Power of Your Subconscious Mind by Joseph Murphey.


At the beginning of my journey, A lot of darkness came up for me during my evening meditations. It was past childhood trauma that I had no idea why they were even brought up. But now I understand that the reason my consciousness brought them up was to heal from those wounds that kept bleeding out. But there is nothing to fear here. Darkness cannot stay when we shed light and that's exactly what we do when we finally acknowledge it.


**Evening Prayer & Journaling:  Thank you God/ Divine/ Source/ Love, thank you for this day. Thank you for all the teachings this day that I may or may not have learned. I sit with you right now to simply listen to what needs to be heard, and express what needs to be expressed. I sit here with an open heart and open mind to reveal any belief that doesn’t come from you. I sit in the knowing that I am guided and protected by the highest. I release any expectation of what my journaling needs to look like. If there’s something that I need to release from my subconscious and release from my heart reveal it, if there’s anything that I need to see, may I see it. All being perfect as it unfolds. I thank you for your guidance and love. And so it is.


After saying this prayer, close your eyes and be still for a bit, allow your thoughts to come in and write them down. Brain dump if you will, get it out and write it down, <3



2.       Journaling. I journaled like crazy at the beginning of my self-discovery journey. I sometimes look back at my old journals and I’m like “Wow all this girl ever wanted was some damn love.” 🥺

You will be so surprised by what comes forth in consciousness when you just allow yourself the space and time to just write. I still use this practice but now on my laptop just as I’m writing this paragraph now. Just having a whole-ass one-way conversation in my head and just jotting it down. Do just that. You can also set an intention on what message you need to hear or be revealed to you. (As mentioned above) It's magical how intentions work. .



 

3.       Movement. Yoga is the practice of uniting the mind body and spirit. Many different forms of yoga, some that I don’t even know about, but you find the one that speaks to you. This will help you drop into your body, and reconnect with yourself mentally, physically, and spiritually. This practice helped me begin to move my body again. I actually started stretching first then hopped on YouTube and found a channel I connected with. (Yoga with Adriene btw if you’d like to give it a try).


It ultimately helped me love my body and all the beauty within It which led me to much more in my journey of reconnecting to my body.


Our bodies are our sacred temple. It carries infinite wisdom and intelligence. It speaks to us. First, in subtle ways and nudges but if we don’t take the time to learn its language and listen closely, the nudges get bigger and louder. Whatever dis-ease is in the mind can easily manifest into physical disease in the body. So be sure to look within and listen to your vessel. Find a practice that works for you.


The goal is slow and mindful movements to really connect both mind and body. Start slow, start easy but the important thing is to start. I am now in a chapter of weightlifting. I still move slowly, I still focus on my breathing, and I still listen closely to my body but the exercises are much different. Believe me when I tell you, your practices will evolve as YOU evolve. But start anywhere just make the time to connect with your body.

 

4.       Nature. Dropping into your body and reconnecting with nature. Go out for a walk, go for a hike, or meditate outside in your backyard. All of these activities will help boost your mood not only because of psychological reasons but for physiological reasons such as getting your daily dose of vitamin D, moving your body, and moving stagnant energy. We are NATURE, we are ONE. Go outdoors get grounded and realign your true nature, with nature. You will be amazed at how magical the everyday things are that we most times just pass on by because we’re in such a rush to move on to the next thing.

 

You were called to do things differently in this life. You are reading this because you know that the life you are living today is not the life you wish to continue living. Whether you're really struggling right now or living well but still feeling unfulfilled, I pray you find your truth and be brave enough to LIVE IT! These practices can be lengthened to however much time you wish to invest in yourself in the mornings throughout the day and night time. Make it YOUR practice. Each Spiritual Practice is as unique as You are so switch it up if you need to but start somewhere are you practice will evolve as you evolve. We are in a new age here and these practices will help you shift into this new world. I love you and as always reach out if you feel called to <3





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Reconnecting to Self✨



Anytime I have someone message me and ask me for guidance on a particular situation I don't respond in the way they think I'm going to respond.


My response is always "What do your spiritual practices look like?


The reason I ask this is because I get asked for guidance about what they should do about x, y, & z.


And it's not my job to tell you what to do or advise you on how to handle a situation.



My only job is to guide you back to YOU so YOU can know what to do in these x, y & z situations.


So joke's on you sister, ask me for advice and I'm going to tell you to pray about it lol lol


But on a serious note, I don't give advice.

Advice is a projection of what I would do in your shoes and your life decisions shouldn't be about what I would do, It is about what are YOU going to do. It's about living your truth!


This question allows the opportunity to discuss the importance of daily spiritual practices.


I get to explain how slowly reconnecting back to self is what allows you to make decisions based on who YOU are with mental clarity.


My coaching isn't about giving you advice. It's about asking the hard questions to dive deep within and find your own truth.


I don't tell you what your limiting beliefs are, with my guidance you SPOT them yourself.


I offer you the insight of how limiting beliefs affect your life decisions and the more you connect to yourself the more aligned decisions you will make in your life.


Before I developed my practices I was so completely lost in my shit. I had lost touch with who I was. My marriage was rocky, and drinking became a daily habit to escape my reality.

 

I always felt so sad, angry, and anxious.

I didn't recognize myself in the mirror.

But something deep within me kept telling me “I am meant for so much more."


I didn't know what that meant, but I knew it.

I didn't know what that looked like, but I felt it.

I reconnected with God (although he never left me) and I began to seek ways to mend my heart.


Developing my spiritual practices led me to the work I do today.

It led me to make decisions that helped me in my healing journey.

 

My spiritual practices saved me from myself.

It helped me be a better mother, a better wife, a better daughter, and a better friend.

A better person altogether.

 

Meditation and prayer are my conscious efforts to communion with God.


Meditation is the time set apart to commune with Divine.


It's in my devotion to Self that I find my peace.

That I find my stillness and my answers.


God’s not a million light-years away.

God is within YOU.


There's only an experience of being separate because of your limited perceptions of the Self & life.

Because you forgot who you are.


Remember that all the answers you seek are to be sought within whether its on your own or with guidance.


If you are having trouble seeing truth, maybe you feel lost, confused, etc, I invite you to develop a spiritual practice.


It will take time to develop and you will feel like you're doing it all wrong but any practice is your practice and there is no wrong way.


Seek God within and build a relationship with the indwelling presence that is and always will be.


The more of YOU you become, the more aligned decisions you will make in your life.

Live your truth, in TRUTH <3


My prayer is that you become inspired to pick up a daily practice and seek God within,

that you release these false stories and identities and you step into your truest identity.


The I AM.


“The Kingdom of Heaven is within You”


I invite you to our upcoming event on December 18th where we dig deep into the subconscious mind, reveal & release false and limiting beliefs, and share our spiritual practices so you can take home and practice for yourself.


A spiritual practice is essential to remain in truth, especially with how bust the world is these days. Having a practice will help you make decisions and live your life aligned to your true self.


Thank you for reading. Please like, share, and or comment- let me know if this speaks to you.

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I love you!

-Zuleica Vasquez✨




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